Individual Therapy

Setting boundaries

We all strive to feel connected, whether it is to ourselves, to other people, or even to the things that we do. Your sense of connection affects who you are, who you interact with, and the boundaries you hold for yourself. Yet there are times when we may feel empty, lonely, or like we’re just going through the motions. This can create a sense of confusion—other things in life might seem fine, so why do we feel this way?

As counterintuitive as it is, a key part of feeling connected is looking at the boundaries that we hold for ourselves, how we define and hold them with the people around us, and what our expectations are. To feel healthily connected, boundaries are necessary.

We’ll work together on a key part of the boundary-setting process: understanding both what you need and what you want. When we are disconnected from those truths (needs & wants), emptiness, loneliness, and numbness can follow.  

Changing focus

When life isn’t the way we want it to be, it’s common to wish external things were different. If only you had a better job, different relationships, or more free time or money. This kind of thinking leads to disappointment.

We’ll work together to re-focus on internal factors that are within your control. When you slow down to focus on your own internal experience, a shift can happen. By noticing the reactions you have to the people and events in your life, you begin to tune in to your expectations, the roles you play to try and get your needs met, and what’s happening internally.

An amazing thing happens when you begin to validate your own experiences rather than expecting that validation externally. You gain clarity about what you actually want and the choices available to you. From there, change becomes possible.